I have been stressed of late. This has nothing to do with my home life - I love my set up and my family. I has everything to do with my school life and I'm not 15 anymore. Its just conflict after conflict and its getting weary for me and my comrades.
I haven't exercised as much, concentrated on my diet properly or blogged. The things I enjoy doing are taking a back seat.
As you may know from my previous post (
el tash) my children's primary school is going through many changes. Not least the council want it to double in size even though they have said there is not a demand for it in our local area rather central, north and east of the borough. Always going to be fighting an uphill battle then aren't they? A lot of disruption for something that statistically doesn't need to happen. There are so many arguments against - parking and disruption being a major one -that many parents are pissed off with a school they were previously happy with.
So what's the dilemma? Well I am Vice Chair (I have had an upgrade much like Skylanders) of the PTA. I come under the umbrella of 'The PTA' not an individual parent. The 'PTA' have been active and very vocal about their feelings against a two form entry. I suppose it didn't help matters when The Chair of the PTA jumped up on a bench in the playground and rallied everyone to come to the consultation meetings in front of the deputy head. She got a good ticking off for that later in the day. We, as a collective, also wrote a stroppy letter demanding that our letters that they ignored in July be answered. We got our letters answered and it was agreed we would meet every now and then to communicate the feelings of parents etc.
This was before a consultation meeting where some patronising woman employed by the council started a meeting with "do you mind if I don't stand up, I've had a hard day" and ended the meeting with "I've got to go I've got a cab waiting for me and I live 2 hours away." Do all public servants go to a school that teaches them to have a permanent puzzled expression on their faces when asked a reasonable question? I am sorry if you work in the public sector and believe you have good customer service skills and sound logic but let me tell you there are plenty that don't. I don't know what this government were thinking if they felt that the private sector could pick up the unemployed public sector workers - honest to god they would be unemployable in my eyes. As ever I've gone off into one.
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So the latest 'breakfast meeting' (starting at 8 am with 3 kids in two and no breakfast on display in a cold PTA hut) happened this week. My word they were gunning for us. Since our previous meeting a mum had exercised her freedom of speech by canvassing local residents to sign a petition and put up a notice in the local newsagent. I don't know her but I
do know her child has special requirements and a one form entry school for her is very important. I was told to stop her basically - to get her facts right. Get her to speak to the school. Er hang on a minute why don't you? Why don't you take ownership of this and demonstrate the fine managerial skills we keep hearing of. I don't know whether to be flattered or insulted - flattered that they think that I am in the same league as Che Guevara or insulted that they think the parents can't think for themselves.
We were also told that staff morale was low (all our fault - in fact most of it appears to be our fault at the moment) regarding our facebook group and that the PTA is meant to support the school. And there in lies the dilemma. They are, of course, correct. A PTA is meant to support the school in all that it does. Its not meant to raise money on the one hand and then give the school a load of grief on the other.
During that hostile meeting (where I suspect a discussion was held along the lines of "let's put this lot in their place") we were told "drastic" action would be taken if this didn't stop. My friend said "well maybe we should disband the PTA" which was met with silence. But I have no doubt they were referring to the fact they would tell us all to piss off. They also said as things currently stand if Ofsted were to come and visit it wouldn't be good. Oh and the head said, and I'll quote, "maybe this isn't the school for you." That's quality that one. My kids who have done nothing wrong should leave the school just because they have a mum that stands up for what she believes in. Isn't that what they teach our children? Or do they say if you don't agree with something don't challenge it, accept it and roll over. This is also the same teachers that don't want to roll over and accept their pension terms. Hypocrisy doesn't really do this sorry tale justice.
Later that evening people were chatting on the facebook page against the two form that another member of the PTA had set up (my friend and partner in crime). Unfortunately it was descending into a forum for everything that people were unhappy with at the school. My friend closed it and "didn't give a shit" if she got grief for it. They are free to open another one and to be honest only a handful of people were actively driving what needed to happen next.
After this meeting I was livid. They asked us to tell them how parents were feeling. We did. The parents, their hard core, the ones that do everything that is asked of them get their kids to school on time, do the homework etc etc weren't that fussed about moving and what school their child went to. They feel disregarded. I know of at least 8 like that. I find them juvenile in that they take everything personally. Our Chair of governors is a councillor. Her husband is also a councilor. He is working out the budget for this for the council. The council wanted the two form entry. The councillor is hurt by the comments of 'conflict of interest'. It
is a conflict of interest. It is a fact. It is not personal. Grow up. These people are in charge of decisions and correct me if I'm wrong but I am being threatened by a head teacher and a councillor for having the audacity to challenge the council? Have I been transported to North Korea or do I live in modern day Britain?
That day we had a light and fluffy AGM where it was a love fest of how grateful they were for our support and fund raising abilities. Others were oblivious to the 'breakfast' hate fest we'd had earlier.
So, here's where I'm at. Whilst I think they have behaved appallingly at times and don't take much accountability for what's gone on they are right about the PTA. It
is meant to support the school. We have a meeting Monday and we need to either say publicly that as a PTA we support the school 100% and the 2 form or we say we are unable to support the school and we will all step down.
We can't go about things cack handed and say yes we'll continue to raise money but we'll be putting every obstacle in your way for a two form. There are two choices as I see it. There are no grey areas. Whether the rest of the gang will agree remains to be seen.
Now, I'm off to put up Christmas Fair posters and to have a girly drink in the local cafe with my daughter followed by some Wii dancing later.
Any suggestions and thoughts are most welcome on this one. Until next time......